When it comes down to it, to the nitty-gritty, the real deal, what does a supernatural childbirth look like?
Many of you may have heard about this pain-free, new-covenant birth, but have yet to experience it. You wonder how it will look like when it comes down to it. What will really happen?
Today I’d like to share with you what I have experienced. I have had both a supernatural and a natural childbirth. At my first birth, as a first-time mom, I did not know what to expect. How could I? I had never done this before and no matter how much I had read – reading it is not the same as experiencing it for yourself. Nothing can prepare you more than experience!
This is the reason why I am sharing my birth stories with you today. Although I cannot help you experience a birth before your birth, I hope that by sharing my stories you will be encouraged to see that IT CAN BE DONE! It is my hope that my stories will bring clarity to your situation and show you some of the good you can expect as a woman in Christ.
So what does a Supernatural Childbirth look like?
I think the best way to answer this question would be to first identify and acknowledge what a natural birth is.
In my own words: A birth is when everything in your body works together to bring forth life. Your entire body (body, mind, will and emotions) work together to birth a baby and bring life into this world.
How does your body know how to do this?
Your body was made for this. It is a natural function to birth a baby. Hormones and things (that I am not qualified or educated about to share) kick-start this process…oh and even doing various physical things can help this along. So yes, your body knows and it has been preparing for a natural birth for however long this little baby has been growing inside of you.
This was one thing I believed and trusted in so much with my first birth. I did not know there was something such as a painless birth and I did not have a revelation of the freedom we have from the curse placed on Eve in the Garden of Eden. But what I did know was that my God was faithful and trustworthy and would not put a baby inside of me that cannot come out. I knew I could trust Him, so I did. I trusted that He made me for this and that I was indeed able to birth this precious baby…
What can I expect at a first-birth?
My first birth was a supernatural birth by a very small degree and so I refer to it as a natural birth. I experienced pain, I even had some injections (Pethidine and Atarax), but at the same time I also experienced God’s peace and had a relatively quick birth (active labor was only 2 hours and 45 minutes). Although it was a hard labor, it was a peaceful, relatively quick, and complication free, natural water birth.
As it is with every first birth (I guess unless you are a midwife or something) EVERYTHING was new. It was one new experience after another. It was a journey. As an inexperienced mother I did not even know how to know whether I was in labor. I was checking for physical signs, phoning my mother and all my mommy-friends for clarity and advice. With no success I ended up calling my midwife team. I remember them talking me through ‘the checklist’… getting in a warm bath to see if the contractions lessen or get more intense (which meant the beginning of labor), and all the rest. What started as light contractions in the morning progressed to an unexpected birth at 37 weeks.
We weren’t prepared at all! Being in the tired phase at the end of my pregnancy, and just having had a baby shower (nothing sorted out yet), we just threw stuff in a bag and rushed off to the birthing clinic. Thank God that Matt had just put the baby seat in the car that morning!
We really appreciated having a support team around us who were just absolutely excellent. They knew exactly what they were doing – they were experts in the area of birth! I had my midwife and a doula encouraging me and showing me how to breathe and suggesting different birthing positions. It was great. The peace of God was in the room and on me.
The one thing I held onto was the knowledge that God had made me for this and I was able. But I do remember times where I told Matt that I could not do it. He just kept encouraging me and reminding me that God made me for this (It is good to hear these things at times like this!).
This birth was as natural as it could be. It was a process and my body was leading the way while the professionals guided me in how to work with it. But then again there were the times where my body was telling me to push and they were saying ‘NO!’. That was the hardest part of the birth for me since I had to use every ounce of self-control not to push (Thus the little help from the Pethidine)!
This was definitely not supernatural. It was what it was – a natural birth – a good one, but natural nonetheless. God was with us and even with my limited understanding, I experienced an amazing birth where the peace of God reigned and my baby boy was born with ease and joy and without any complications.
But What About a Supernatural Childbirth?
What does a supernatural childbirth look like? To give you the short and honest answer: it depends. For some my natural birth with Gregory was a supernatural childbirth (and to me it was supernatural to some degree), but a supernatural childbirth’s outcome really all depends on you and really all depends on your expectations.
A great teacher of the things of God, Dr. James B. Richards, says, “You get what you expect”. This short phrase has been a great reminder for my family and I when we examine an outcome of a situation. We would remember this and ask ourselves, “Well, what do we expect?” Our answer shows us if our expectations need readjustment (if we were in fear or lack) or if we were indeed standing in faith.
But is this catch phrase really true? Is it scriptural? Is it truth? I believe it is. When I look at the things of God, His promises and life, it is all received by faith. And the Bible tells us that faith is the substance (the physical stuff) of what we hope for (see Hebrews 11:1). In other words our faith is built up by what we hope for. Said another way: Our faith is formed out of what we expect.
So, while remembering that a supernatural childbirth depends on what you expect, I want to share with you my supernatural childbirth…
A Supernatural Experience
Early on in my second pregnancy I discovered that I had been set free from the curse placed on Eve in the Garden of Eden. From that moment on I was fully convinced that I would have a pain-free, easy birth, because I believed I was set free and that Jesus had died to give this to me. It truly was as simple as that. I had no list. I just had confidence in Christ’s finished work.
But as the birth drew near and time came for me to share my natural expectations and desires [birth plan] with my midwife, she introduced me to Jackie Mize’s book, Supernatural Childbirth.
It was through this book that I discovered I was not ‘the only one’! HA! It was also during this time that I made a list of what I expected for my upcoming birth (To be honest, I don’t remember exactly how I started my list, if it was one of Jackie’s ideas or if it was something the Holy Spirit placed on my heart, but I do remember that while reading Jackie’s very encouraging book I decided late one night to make my own list of what I expect to experience with my birth.). This list was extremely detailed and as I explain in this article I really don’t think this is necessarily necessary for everyone.
Although I was already fully convinced of the truth, as I read my list every night, the Holy Spirit showed me things that I could add or even showed me where fear might be creeping in. This list kept my heart in check and kept me in a place of faith and confidence in Jesus. Every night I reminded myself that He was able and that I was able IN HIM.
When it came to my birth everything happened exactly as I expected and the times where things started going in the wrong direction I just commanded it to change in the Name of Jesus and spoke the life of God into that situation.
I remember there was a time when a doula (out of the goodness of her heart) tried to show me how to breathe (the very assistance I appreciated SO MUCH with my first birth). I actually experienced a contraction in my own ability, and YES it was painful! I immediately got up and walked out of the situation and said aloud (maybe not for the best of those around) that this was not the way I had planned to do it. You see with my first birth these things were great because it helped me work with my body, but with my second birth this was not what I was believing for. I had not planned to let my body lead the way. Instead, I was determined to be in Christ and walk in His ability in me. I was resting in God and in His ability. The moment I tried functioning in my own ability I saw how limited I was. Only in Christ could I experience this birth without pain.
Throughout the birth my darling husband, Matt, reminded me of the reality that I was in Christ by speaking the Word over me and encouraging me in the Truth. Although I had already prepared myself through the Word it was so good to hear it afresh. He reminded me of and kept me focused on the Truth. I believe that this was an instrumental part to why my birth was such a great success.
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When Push comes to Shove…
I had prepared myself that the contractions would be just what they are, muscles tightening and pushing baby out, but without any pain or discomfort. And that was exactly what they were. (Since this birth I have grown in my understanding of the freedom we have available in birth, and have come to understand that even working during birth has been paid for. If you’d like to read more about this, you are welcome to read Part 1 of this article.)
But during the last half-hour of the birthing process the contractions got very intense and I used the shower’s water to help me relax. At no time were they painful, but because of something my midwife said earlier in the day, without consciously knowing it, I allowed the contractions to become intense. You see, just a few hours before, my midwife had told me that my contractions were going to have to get more intense in order for me to be ‘in labor’. I wanted her to be convinced that I was indeed about to give birth, because I really wanted her present at my birth (I felt I needed an expert’s help and assistance ;)), but since I was in such a relaxed state she wasn’t convinced. We prayed that she would be present for the birth and by God’s faithfulness she did show up 40 minutes before the birth. I must have still not been confident that she would be present, because subconsciously I continued to allowed the contractions to become more intense. Next time around I will make sure to pro-actively stand against such statements and remind myself that God is faithful and will make a way. I do not have to make it happen or convince anyone!
With my first birth I had to get a relaxant (the Pethidine) to keep me from pushing before the time was right so with my second birth I specifically stood against that. I believed that I was not going to have any urge to push before baby was ready to come out… So when the urge came I knew it was NOW!
Matt and I were alone in the bathroom so he went to get my midwife who was still busy preparing the room (not thinking baby was anyway near coming out). They got to me just before baby’s head crowned. Henny, my darling midwife, supported me and held me while I gave one hard push. It was awesome! I wanted to have feeling, just no pain, so I felt the so-called ‘ring of fire’ (It was like a warm fire, but without burning or pain. It was just awesome!). Once baby crowned Henny took a step back to take her shoes off (we were on the floor in the shower!). I’m sure she expected me to have a few more contractions, but it wasn’t so. All of a sudden I felt like I was about to drop something very fragile and gave one big yell as to say ‘Catch this girl!’. Henny had to make a small dive to catch our little princess. It was awesome though and truly out of this world! Saree was born through the power and ability of our Savior and King, Jesus Christ.
I held my baby in my arms, sitting on the shower floor and my family came in to see my precious princess. After a while Matt took Saree and went to the room. I asked for some water (being a bit thirsty) and some of it went down the wrong pipe. Well, I coughed and just like that the placenta was delivered. The thing said to be like another birth after the birth was over just like that. I specifically did not want to fuss with birthing the placenta, so I believed that it would happen all at the same time (close together). How great it was seeing the things I had believed for materialize. When my midwife came back to check up on me she looked at me in awe exclaiming that I truly had the birth I desired!
The dark night after the bright day
Saree was born at 4h20 and throughout the evening family came to visit and see the newborn. When everyone left and we were getting ready for bed (sleeping in a wonderful King Size bed in the beautiful Genesis Clinic) the midwives came to check up on us one last time asking if I’d like some warm beanbags to help with afterbirth cramps. I accepted it with open arms. Looking back at it now, I guess I was just tired and pre-occupied when she asked, but in affect I accepted a physical solution to pain instead of continuing in God’s ability and life.
Also, throughout my pregnancy I ignored the statements and warnings made by my midwife that warned about these afterbirth pains that were often worse than those during the birth. I had not considered preparing myself for after the birth. You see, if someone warns you about something physical, it is not necessarily a lie. It is probably true and, if it is indeed so, as believers we are to stand against it through the Word and the Name of Jesus instead of just ignoring it. In effect I allowed a tiny little lizard to come and sit on the wall and intimidate me after I had just defeated a mighty fire-breathing dragon!
Throughout the night Matt and I would pray for the pain to go away and it would, just to come back with the next feeding. We fought and stood together throughout the night and by the afternoon of the next day I had gotten strong in the Lord again so much so that if pain would just start to arise I would tell it ‘No’ and it would cease (this was similar to what I used to do with period pains, which was one of the first things I exercised my authority over in Christ.).
Experiencing that dark night after that gloriously bright day reminded me of how an abundant life on this earth truly is a continual pursuit. There will always be opportunity for pain or trouble, even Jesus said so (see John 16), but praise be to Him for He has overcome this world and we can stand in Him. He is our strength. He is our Rock. He finished the work. Our part now is to rest and enter into that finished work (You can read more about entering into God’s rest in the article ‘Preparing to Receive the Supernatural Through the Word’).
God is faithful, powerful and forever for us!
I hope you were blessed and may you experience His abundant life in every area of your life: conception, childbearing, childbirth and childrearing.
Would you like to ask me a question about my birth? Or do you have another birth-related question?
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Here are some questions that we have already answered…
(Keep in mind that most of these questions and answers are based on personal opinions and beliefs. We will never force you to believe or live as we do. The Word is the only place where we stand without any waver and where there should always be unity.)
When should my water break? Can I trust my water breaking as a sign of the start of my birth?
With Saree my water broke right as she crowned. I believed very strongly that my water did not have to break until the very very end. Some ladies like to have their water breaking as a sign of the start of birth. This is a personal decision that you have to make on your own.
I personally chose to have the Holy Spirit put 100% confidence in my heart when I was starting to birth. It was after experiencing false labor 2 weeks before Saree’s birth that I decided to go about it in this way. Personally, I didn’t like the pressure of knowing that after my water broke I only have 24 hours before they’ll give me an emergency C-section (because of risk of infection, etc.).
With every decision you make, just make sure you follow peace and do not go into something blindly. See the next question for more on this.
What about the umbilical cord? Should I believe for it to be longer and/or not wrapped around baby’s neck?
I would say that being less specific with things you do not fully understand is better. And then trusting God that He would keep baby safe.
For example, just saying that the umbilical cord will be out of the way, and then trust God that He would keep baby safe.
For me, I specifically stood “That she is safe and nothing is in the way of her coming out” and “That the umbilical cord is long enough and out of the way”. Well, she was born with her umbilical cord wrapped around her neck! I am not sure about the length, but it was wrapped quite a few times.
Even though it seemed that the cord was in ‘the wrong place’, when I saw her come out I had peace and knew she was safe. I just took it off and all was fine. It was more than a year later that I learned that this is actually a very safe place for the cord and is perfectly fine. It was only then that I realized that God had protected her at birth and even though it did not seem right according to me, it was. God was indeed faithful to protect her, even in the small unknown.
What about those afterbirth pains?
The afterbirth pains got strong every time I nursed my baby. This is a natural thing and is good for our bodies. Those contractions work to contract our womb back to its normal size again. But as a redeemed new covenant believer we do not have to experience this as painful. We can stand against it in Jesus and that is exactly what Matt and I did throughout that night.
What about support during my birth? Do you provide anything like that?
Having someone there to stand with you, especially if you are in a place where you are overwhelmed, is invaluable. I do not think I would have experienced life to the same degree during my birth if it was not for the support from my darling husband.
Inneke and I desire to be there for you too, so we have provided a place for you where you can correspond to us via email and phone during birth. The best is to connect with us before birth so we can share contact details and make sure we are aware and available. We have done this for a few of you already, but for those of you who need a formal invitation, please feel free to contact us whenever and if ever you need spiritual support and/or encouragement.
You can contact us here.